January 19th, 2018
This last year my focus has been on family. I lost my Dad and my Grandpa this year and it has made me realize just how blessed and thankful I am for the family I still have. It does not matter if you are close or far away, family is blood. You truly notice how important people and things are to you when they are taken away. Do not wait for people to be gone to realize how much you love and appreciate them.
There are many families that contain strange and or difficult dynamics. If there is a way to build up and reconnect with estranged relatives do it. I was able to get to know my Dad over the years and I am so thankful that I did. I have no regrets with my Dad looking back. I miss him like crazy but because of our relationship and how good it was, I sleep well at night. My Father’s passing caused my other relatives and myself to become much closer. I am so thankful to be closer to my brothers, their wives and my niece and nephew. I am connecting with my Mom more and appreciating the opportunity that I have to stay close with her and her husband. Other relatives have come into my life and I am so excited and thankful to be able to see them more often and really spend some time with them . From Aunt’s, Uncles, Cousins, Grandparents and relatives that I don’t even know what relationship we have, I am so appreciative that I am blessed to have them in my life.
I share all this to challenge you. If there is family in your life that you are distant with due to any type of circumstances do what you can to connect. I have been able to work through so many struggles and situations to establish relationship with family. I am better off because of it. I do want to say that if family is toxic and unhealthy to your well being and you have tried to build boundaries with them and still there is no growth, then it is good for you to move on. Never stay in a relationship that you work on but the other half isn’t willing to meet you half way. True family will love you, accept you, argue with you, support you, care about you and your future and they will always be there for you. If you have relationships that you are doing all to work and getting nothing out of it, it isn’t healthy. If you have no family that is willing or capable of doing that, let them go. Sometimes the best family is made up of a group of best friends. My family is made up of a lot of family mixed in with quite a few friends.
Surround yourself with people that challenge you to be better than you thought you could be. Be close to family that have unconditional love for you. Create an alliance with friends that pull out the best version of yourself. Be around others that encourage, support, challenge, motivate, care and always speak truth to you. If you do that, you will have something to constantly appreciate.